The newborn phase can be tough for parents. One of the best ways to handle the stress is to divvy up the responsibilities so that each parent gets some time to rest and return rejuvenated.
However, when this dad shared his own situation with his wife and newborn twins, many people felt like their roles weren't being divided effectively and the man was judged by the internet.
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One Reddit user shared a post asking for people's opinion after he felt he shouldn't have to wake up at night to help care for his 3-week-old twins.
I work while she does not. I help whenever I’m not working but have told my wife she has to cover the overnights as I need sleep for work.
He explained that his wife felt it was unfair that he got to sleep through the night, but the poster argued his point saying his wife could also catch up on sleep during the day - which was something he couldn't do at work.
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The poster also said they hired a nanny who helped with housework and childcare duties a few days a week. And whenever he returned from work and when he was home during the weekends, he took over all the parenting duties while his wife got some sleep.
The dad explained that he worked an average of 72-84 hours per week and each shift lasted about 12 hours. He also added that the nanny took up all of the housework in addition to helping the mom so she could get some sleep during the day.
In his opinion, he deserved to get a full nights' sleep so he could be able to function at work. Many Reddit users, however, disagreed. They commented that he was trying to shirk his responsibilities as a dad.
Some saw things from his perspective, though, and believed that since his wife was getting some help, then he shouldn't have to give up his sleep, especially considering he was the sole provider.
Where do you stand on this argument? Is the man being unreasonable and lazy? Or should the new mom be expected to pull her weight a little bit more?
For a relationship to work, there has to be communication and understanding. This lesson is exemplified in the video below.
Did you learn something from it?