Mother and daughter-in-law relationships can be strong, respectful and happy. Sounds insane, right? Multiple people admit having difficulties in communicating with their husband's or wife's mothers.
Sometimes mothers-in-law can be really judgmental, toxic and unbearable, going as far as harming - either wittingly or not - your private life. Even more often, they have no sense of boundaries. They might interfere in your business, space or other life spheres whenever they like, pretending to be your good friend. Sometimes, however, the situation can be quite the opposite. Your mother-in-law will make you feel worthless, fail to respect your opinion and decisions or give you backhanded compliments. Moreover, if you have kids, the relationship can get even more strenuous.
The story one devastated mom shared on Mumsnet sent ripples through social media. After her little daughter's hair dropped away at six weeks and finally grew thick, curly and beautiful, the woman planned to let it grow out. She was really delighted and in love with the "beautiful blonde color." The expectations were totally ruined after her partner's step-mum gave the granddaughter a complete trim.
The mother-in-law believed her hair would grow faster after she shaved her granddaughter's head. There probably would not have been any problems if she had got her son's and/or daughter-in-law's agreement to do this. Having spent only one day taking care of her granddaughter, the woman brought her back home with a beanie hat on. Imagine the mother's surprise when she took it off and discovered that all the hair had gone:
"I started removing DD's [darling daughter's] outwear. I finally got to pulling her hat off and I was gobsmacked. All her curly hair is GONE! It wasn't a trim, all her hair is complete gone."
Although the grandmother apologized, she refused to return at least a curl to the family as a precious thing to keep, noting she had only one for herself:
"That added fuel to the fire and I told her she's completely out of order and she best avoid me for a while."
Internet users sparked backlash against the mother-in-law's behavior, calling it "outrageous" and "insane."
If you are "lucky" enough to deal with a toxic mother-in-law, then the best decision would be to avoid escalation of conflict situations. Set your boundaries and remember that emotion is your enemy number one. Lastly, try to understand why your mother-in-law might be treating you this way.
No matter what, keep your family first!