Maintaining a strong relationship takes work. You can't just expert it to happen naturally. That's why happy couples have certain habits and actions that help keep them together.
We can all learn from these 10 secret habits of couples who truly love each other and want to have a happy relationship together.
1. They make each other feel safe
Psychotherapist and author Dr. Barton Goldsmith explained that one of the best things your partner can do for you is to make you feel safe. Life can be tough sometimes. But having someone in your corner who can help you calm down and even make you laugh on those hard days is precious.
2. They know how to listen
We all want to feel heard. And Goldsmith believes that listening is another important component in a happy relationship. You should be able to spend time with your beloved and really listen to whatever it is they are trying to tell you.
3. They express their admiration for each other
Psychologist Kevin D. Arnold, Ph.D., says you don't have to wait until after a fight to do those things that make your partner feels good. You can 'bank' these positive actions and feelings on a day-to-day basis and you just may notice that the chances of conflicts are reduced.
4. They hold on to important details
Dr. Arnold also opined that couples should endeavor to make some room in their lives for their partner. Of course, we have so many things on our minds and it's easy for the little details to fade away. But remembering each other's birthdays, favorite songs, favorite foods etc are the little things that cement the love.
5. They give each other their undivided attention
It's very important to value your time together. Whether you're on a date or simply having an important conversation, you should turn off all distractions. Social psychologist Dr. Theresa E. DiDonato advises that you save that phone and email checking for later.
6. They value intimacy
Being physically intimate with one another is not the only way to connect. Dr. DiDonato explained that you should take some time afterward to talk to each other as it helps build the trust.
7. They see the positives
When things are down shouldn't be the only time you seek your partner. Dr. Goldsmith believes it's important to celebrate victories as well.
8. They offer assistance
You don't need grand gestures to show your partner you care. Goldsmith suggests that you help out with the little things such as mailing a letter or making a bank deposit.
9. They have faith in each other
According to Goldsmith, couples must understand that just because your partner is doing things a bit differently from you does not mean their way is wrong. You must always trust and have faith in them to make the right decision. Don't always insist that things go your own way.
10. They forgive each other
Things will not always be rosy and chances are, your partner will hurt you deeply at some point. But if you do choose to forgive, Dr. DiDonato says you must do so completely and effectively. Harboring resentment and anger is a recipe for disaster.
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