4 Tips For An Enduring Marriage From Tom Hanks, Who's Been Happily Wedded for 31-Years
May 3, 2019 14:47 By Mambee
Conventional wisdom holds it that most Hollywood couples are bad role models, especially in matters of lifelong marriage. However, while some actors are cheating on their partners and breaking up, Tom Hanks and Rita Wilson are enjoying their 31st year together. The American actor insists their feelings have only become stronger and more colorful over time.
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Moreover, Tom never hesitates to share his love experience and his ideas about marriage. Here are some pieces of advice the famous actor has mentioned in his interviews:
1. Always support each other
The couple’s story isn’t as cheerful as you might think. They have gone through thick and thin together and encountered many obstacles on their way. Wilson has always supported her husband over the years. In his speech at the 64th Academy Awards ceremony in 1992, the Oscar-winning actor said:
“I am here only because the woman I live my life with shows me what love is every day!”
Furthermore, even Wilson’s breast cancer diagnosis in 2015 did not influence their relationship. The woman admits her husband’s love and everlasting care brought her back to life and helped to overcome the disease.
2. Little pleasant things matter!
Even if you are married for more than 30 years, you should not take your spouse for granted. Remind him or her of your love every single day, doing little nice things, such as leaving notes, sending pictures, sharing feelings or simply helping with chores.
‘I often leave notes for her near the phone or somewhere in the kitchen. I wish her a good day and stuff like that. I type notes for her using the antique typewriters that I collect — I have more than a hundred. And also, I have a habit of sending a photo report of my day to Rita.’
3. Love knows no conditions
Love your partner the way they are. Don’t try to change them or make them meet your demands and expectations. If you really love your partner, your love is unconditional. Tom expresses his feelings to Rita, saying:
4. Find the right person
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We are used to hearing that a happy marriage is the result of hard work. However, the famous actor denies this platitude in his interview with The Mirror:
“They say it must be hard work. No, it’s not,”.
Tom admits that the secret of a happy marriage is just to be lucky enough to find the right person and appreciate them for the rest of your days. The actor knows about how happy he is to have found the right woman, further intimating:
“My secret to a happy marriage is just being married to the right woman. I got lucky with the wonderful Rita Wilson. I’m the luckiest man alive.”
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There are many rules and guidelines that help to make your love and marriage enduring, but not all of them work for everyone. Even though it isn’t always easy to put theory into practice, we hope you will find the right way to be happy.