"My Husband Called Me A Gold-Digger." Mom Shares Heartbreaking Details Of How Her Relationship Fell Apart After A Baby Came Into The Picture
June 12, 2019 12:02 By Mambee
Some people say having a child changes things in a relationship, but, in fact, it could be said that having a child brings out the actual color of any relationship.
A relationship meant to thrive will do so either a baby is introduced or not, and one not expected to succeed will crumble under the challenges of parenting.
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Here’s an anonymous woman’s story, posted on Love What Matters, that paints a perfect picture of this scenario.
Lisa had a perfect life with her partner. They had been in love for two years, and then a baby came into the picture.
Excited, they decided to move in together. They also agreed that, when the baby arrived, she would become a full-time mother while her partner continued his job. Lisa had been working in publishing while her partner was in marketing. She worked for up to 8 months into her pregnancy, saving up every dime she could.
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The beautiful baby came, and before long most of her savings were spent on baby needs.
That’s when her husband's ugly side appeared. Two months after Mia was born, she began to notice her partner being cruel and selfish when it came to money. She started to hear things like:
“Didn’t I give you 50 dollars last week?”
Her partner began to complain about more things and make really selfish decisions. Then, she decided to get a job as a babysitter, which would still allow her the time to be with Mia, but he refused.
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Things worsened and one day when she asked for $20 to buy diapers, he said:
“This was your plan all along, right? Make me work all day and then just mooch off of me while you do absolutely nothing all day.”
Lisa was heartbroken by his words. Feeling hurt, she decided to go to her room, but he followed her and started to hit her while calling her a gold-digger. She wrote:
“I felt an instant, excruciating pain from the blows.”
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He sent flowers the next day, but she knew the relationship was over. She called her mom and moved out of his house. Months later, she learned her ex had had a series of abusive relationships. How lucky she was to escape when she did!
Surviving your marriage after a baby
You need to understand, no marriage will be a bed of roses. Difficulties will arise eventually, but here’s how you can tip the balance to make it work:
- Communication is key, always;
- This is the time to get closer intimately, no matter how difficult it may seem;
- Also, ensure you each get some ‘me’ time;
- Plan your finances together.
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With enough commitment, love, and respect, it's possible to make your relationship soar after a baby comes.