Could This Be Harmful? Parents Cried Out For Help After Their Teenage Son Ran Away To Be With His Teacher Girlfriend
March 22, 2019 10:35 By Mambee
A teenage boy decided to run away so he could be with his teacher girlfriend.
The parents of 16-year-old Noel approached Filipino journalist Raffy Tulfo in hopes that he could help them bring their child home.
At the time, the mom discouraged the pair from meeting up because she felt her son didn't really know enough about her, but Noel was insistent and told his mom that she was his girlfriend.
Noel invited the girl to his house where she introduced herself to his parents as 15-year-old Angelica Uy. Things got complicated when Noel wanted Angelica to spend the night at the house, but his parents refused.
Noel was upset and ended up running away from home with his girlfriend. He would later reveal to his parents that the 'teenage' Angelica turned out to be a 26-year-old preschool teacher.
The boy's parents were shocked, especially when he suddenly stopped attending school, in January 2018. He also refused to return home, even after his parents had pleaded with him to come back and at least finish high school.
It is believed that the woman might have groomed Noel by buying him gadgets like laptops, cellphones and expensive clothes.
Are they breaking any laws?
While people in certain parts of the world would frown at a relationship between a 26-year-old and a 16-year old, it turns out that Noel and the teacher aren't breaking any actual laws by being together.
The age of consent in the Philippines is 12 years old, which means the teacher cannot be brought to book for running away with a student.
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In an article published in Psychology Today, psychotherapist Nick Luxmoore pointed out that it wasn't unheard of for teachers to develop romantic feelings for students. In places where the law disallows this, such as in the USA, teachers shouldn't act on those feelings, at least until they are legally able to do so.
In Noel's case, the parents are obviously worried about their young son. And when it comes to matters like this, all parents have to understand how to help troubled teenagers. Here are some tips to consider:
- Be there for them: Sometimes, the best way to help a teen is to offer your unconditional love and support. You may be against their decisions but you shouldn't turn your back on them.
- Find common ground: Even when you disagree, you and your child should still have interests in common. Focus on these as you try your best to help them.
- Listen: It's important to listen to your child without immediately judging or giving advice. Even when you disagree, try to see their point of view and you might come to a compromise.
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Dealing with a troubled teen is no walk in the park, but these parents are clearly determined to get their son back home and, hopefully, the teacher understands that keeping the boy away from his family isn't really the best thing for all involved.
The material in this article is for informational purposes only and does not replace the advice of a certified specialist.