Etiquette Expert Stirred Controversy By Saying That Kids Over 5 Should Give Up Seats For Adults In Public Transport
October 29, 2018 10:59 By Mambee
We all try to teach kids good manners. However, it turns out the “good manners” is relative. Everyone gives it a different meaning, depending on culture, age, background and life experience. That is why a recent Twitter update from the etiquette expert created a buzz among parents.
William Henson posted a message for parents on his Twitter page, saying that children over 5 must offer their seats to adults when in public transport.
PARENTS: As it’s half term, it’s time to revise etiquette for public transport and your children.👨👩👦👦👨👨👧👧👩👧👦— William Hanson (@williamhanson) October 23, 2018
At busy times, children over the age of 5 should give up (or at least offer) their seats to adults.
It’s an essential way to teach them respect for their elders.🚌🚎🚇
Did he sound rational or crazy? Twitter users had many opinions regarding this particular show of good manner. Some agreed, while others appeal to equal rights for adults and children.
I don't disagree overall but think age 8+ would be a better age if we're talking about giving up a seat for able-bodied adults. Plus under 5s can sit on their parent/ carer's knee anyway.— Liat Hughes Joshi (@liathughesjoshi) October 23, 2018
Respect for there elders. What a joke. When my wife was pregnant she would travel on a busy metro and not one ADULT would give up there seat. My daughter knows it’s polite to offer her seat shame most adults don’t— SpartinMartin (@SpartinMartin84) October 24, 2018
The twit sparked a furious debate, to say the least.
Sorry but I completely disagree, if they have paid their fare they are as much entitled to a seat as the next person. If the bus is full the driver should not take any more passengers.— helen (@xxxhelenlxxx) October 25, 2018
Give over,my 5 year old won't be giving up his seat for a capable adult, not having him knocked about and flying down the aisles thanks,have you even got children yourself— Jo maxted (@jo_Emma) October 25, 2018
Unless was disabled adult or pregnant woman or elderly then no my kids will not be made to give us their seat!!! Adults are no different to children adults can stand for longer— leeanne Adlam (@LeeanneAdlam) October 24, 2018
Henson underlines that it is essential to teach kids to show respect for the elders. Experts reveal some essential tips to help parents with this mission:
Do not raise your voice
Start with showing respect to your children. Do not overreact if they show seemingly disrespectful behavior; do not yell at them for any mischief. It would be taken as aggression by your precious one, and absorbed immediately as a pattern reaction.
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Give them examples and explain how to approach different situations. Model a respectful behavior by raising an individual with freedom of choice. Teach them how to express their need and discontent with language, avoiding shouting, hitting, or acting selfishly.
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Be a good example
You are a human being, and you can make mistakes, too. Show it to your child by apologizing for your own faux passes.
Unfortunately, the art of courtesy seems to be lost these days. It’s up to you how to raise your children and what manners to embed in them. And remember: You can never demand respect. You have to earn it.