Body Language Expert Explains That The Way You Sit With Your Partner Says A Lot About Your Relationships
July 12, 2019 11:59 By Mambee
Communication doesn’t only occur when people talk to each other. Your disposition towards people also plays a huge role in communication.
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This non-verbal signal is called body language. Studies suggest that body language accounts for about 65% of all interactions. Paying attention to body language goes a long way in connecting with people.
According to body language expert Dr. Georgina Barnett, the way you sit on the sofa with your partner says a lot about your relationship.
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Dr. Barnett is the author of ‘The Mottos: The Guiding Principles Behind Creating an Enchanting Relationship and Keeping Your Love Blooming.’
While speaking to The Sun, Barnett revealed what different sitting positions depict.
1. Sitting on Different Sofas
Barnett reveals that this is the most common position among long-term couples. She explains that although they might be distant from each other physically, it doesn’t translate to any problems in the marriage.
It just means that they have grown accustomed to each other. It could also mean that they have grown apart, or become indifferent towards each other.
2. Putting your legs on your partner’s lap
This is another coming sitting position with many couples. Most people view this position as one of relaxation and intimacy, but Dr. Barnett suggests otherwise. She said:
"Whoever has their legs on their partner is the one in control. The person with their legs over their partner is, to some degree, demanding attention and has the dominant position – possibly in the relationship, as well as in the moment.”
Nevertheless, it’s not all negative as it could depict a thriving relationship in which both parties are comfortable with each other.
3. Sitting side-by-side, touching but not cuddling
According to Dr. Barnett, couples with this sitting position are happy and content. She explained that although they might not be burning with passion for one another, they are connected and want to keep that connection constant.
She emphasized that couples that practice this position have a healthy amount of trust and space.
4. Sitting on opposite sides of the sofa
Just like the position indicates, couples who sit like this show that there is frostiness in their relationship. It means that they have drifted apart.
However, if there is the presence of conflict, it could mean the partners are protesting. It could even get more serious if both of them have their legs crossed.
5. Cuddling in one corner
This might seem a lovely pose that indicates intimacy and connection, but again, Barnett suggests that isn’t the case. She explained that although there might be closeness, it could primarily depict a power differential in the relationship.
The person that is spread out in the corner is the controlling partner, while the other is the submissive and clingy one.
6. Cuddling in the middle
This is the ultimate sitting position for couples who are in love and experience equality in their relationship. She said:
“This is often found early in a relationship where there is more of a need for assurance. If the couple’s heads are leaning together as well, this indicates an emotional as well as physical connection.”
Ways to strengthen your relationship
You can work at it to make it what you desire. Here are tips to enhance your relationship
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- Never neglect physical intimacy;
- Don’t be afraid to have arguments;
- Always celebrate each other;
- Don’t lose yourself in any relationship.
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Indeed, our body language depicts a lot of the things we feel towards those around us. However, it is essential to note that the sitting positions explained do not define a relationship. Love, friendship, honesty, and communication are the basis for an enduring and happy relationship.
The material in this article is for informational purposes only and does not replace the advice of a certified specialist.