Dad Of Boy With Down Syndrome Reveals That He Was Ashamed At First But Later Learned To Love And Support His Son
January 28, 2019 18:11 By Mambee
This occurs when a person has an extra copy of Chromosome 21. Its side effects often include trouble building personal, academic, social and professional skills.
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And this is the reasons why so many parents dread it.
However, beyond those setbacks, there are several other blessings, you only have to choose to see them. Take a cue from Spencer's dad, Beau Brooks.
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Beau writes about his experience
Just like several other dads, Beau dreamt of the perfect life with his unborn son.
He had always been surrounded by females - his wife and two daughters -, and so a son meant a lot to him. However, his big arrival day wasn't as he expected.
On November 18, 2015, Spencer was born, and Beau rejoiced as he heard his son's cries.
The nurse took him out to be cleaned and returned him to his parents, but then she noticed something was out of the ordinary, saying he was ‘floppy.’
At this moment, Beau was scared but the thought of his kid having Down Syndrome never occurred to him. He then went outside where he met his mom and his mother-in-law.
His mom, who was also worried, asked if the baby had Down Syndrome, and this angered Beau. He was unwilling to accept such and made his way to the nursery window.
While recounting the experience on Love What Matters, the dad disclosed that, at that moment, he couldn't hold back the tears.
He finally managed to go back to his wife and soon later they got the news. The doctor said:
“He has Down Syndrome.”
Beau was dejected on hearing this, as all he saw at that moment was a burden.
“I did not want anything to do with my new son. I refused to touch him or hold him. I did not even want to see him.”
Beau cried for 10 hours, feeling angry and guilty. Later that day, he got a call from a friend who had a kid with Down Syndrome, too.
The two met and talked. As disclosed by Beau, his friend told him that he had to accept that his dreams of the perfect son were gone.
However, he had much more to learn from and love about what was ahead of him. This changed Beau's opinion.
He returned to the hospital totally aware of what was going on, and finally held his son. Since then, he has had no regrets.
Now, the family adores every single moment they get to spend together.
It may not have been the perfect start, but when Beau decided to look beyond the faults, he saw something more beautiful and worthy to cherish.
Advise for parents of kids with Down Syndrome
Although having a child with Down Syndrome can be tough, you can navigate it by understanding them better.
Here is how to go about it:
1. Seek to understand the condition to understand your kid;
2. Encourage the child to socialize;
3. Remain optimistic, as these kids often look after their parents;
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4. Encourage them to be ambitious and independent;
5. Seek assistance from professionals, and remain patient as they take longer to learn and develop.
Beau was scared, hurt and disappointed, and so he was blind to the blessings that were in front of him. Fortunately, he got to retrace his steps and saw what he would be missing. A disability is never a curse!