‘I Won't Be Breastfeeding My Baby:’ Mom Speaks Out On Her Experience With Breastfeeding On Instagram
November 29, 2018 19:14 By Mambee
Breastfeeding is a fantastic experience! Knowing that your newborn baby depends on you for feeding makes motherhood all the more amazing. Medical experts advise exclusive breastfeeding of a baby for the first six months and add other foods, combined with breastmilk, should be given later.
This natural method of feeding a baby comes with many benefits such as:
• It provides the ideal nutrition for a baby and has a perfect blend of vitamin, protein, and fat which is in its best digestible form.
• Breastfeeding is linked to higher IQ in children.
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• Breastfeeding strengthens the relationship between mother and child. The body contact, eye contact, and passing of fluid from the mother to the child increase the bond between the two.
• As breastfeeding is all natural, you don't need to worry about spending money on feeding bottles, sterilization and formula. However great breastfeeding is, it is a mother’s personal prerogative how to feed her baby, and no one should be judged.
Jessica speaks out
Meet Jessica Hood, from Melbourne, the soon-to-be mother of four is expecting her baby on Christmas day.
MY CHOICE NOT TO BREASTFEED Although a slightly controversial topic I think it needs to be spoken about more . For months now I had made the conscious decision not to breast feed my baby when he arrives . Today I finally opened up about it and today a whole lot of women reached out to me and thanked me for having the courage to be straight forward and honest . My decision was based around not only my mental health but also my past experiences with breastfeeding and my struggles . You see the struggle to breastfeed “ for me “ was definitely a trigger for my pnd with lily , something I feel contributed to it. I honestly felt like I was not doing a good job and I just couldn’t get it down pat . It was frustrating . With my last born she had an undiagnosed lip and tongue tie. Despite being checked we were told she was fine but very quickly she became underweight with her feeding struggles. So far I’ve been lucky to not been criticised for my decision but praised . Praised for making a decision and being able to be open about it. What upset me the most was hearing about women who felt bullied for making that choice in the past. Why? It doesn’t make us any less of a mum , it doesn’t mean we are doing something wrong . Whatever works for you and your baby is what works . Your baby is loved , fed , happy and thriving , how is it anyone else’s business whether or not you breast or bottle fed and that was the reason I came out and openly spoke about it. Something has gotta change and women need to support each other during such a fragile time . I entered this journey with my heart and soul and wanting to be 💯 honest with you all and that is what I’m doing . I wanna inpower and inspire . What ever choice you make as a parent whether it’s to breastfeed or not , to homeschool , to have a c section or to co sleep I want us as mother to feel comfortable with our choices and to be able to back ourselves and our decisions and not only that I want women to feel that they can make these choices for THEIR children and not be judge! So yes - I’m not breastfeeding my baby and I am not ashamed one bit ❤
She has gone on her Instagram to address the sensitive topic and talk about her method of breastfeeding. She also announced that she will not be breastfeeding her coming baby.
Jessica said that she isn't afraid to say this, and doesn't understand why women are judged for their choice not to breastfeed.
Today i over thought everything . Today I thought about how much your world is gonna change soon . My mini me . My little shadow . How are you gonna cope with having a little baby around . Mummy is gonna be so busy are you gonna be ok ? Are you gonna cope? Whenever we welcome a new baby into our family I have this overwhelming feeling of guilt . I remember when lily wasn’t gonna be the only child anymore , leaving her that morning to go to the hospital broke my heart . Almost like I was doing something wrong . Of course the adjustment will always be hard at first but I known in my heart after doing it so many times you won’t know any different and having a little brother will be so great for you . So today I held you. I rocked you to sleep and I cuddled you and watched you sleep . It will be fine . We will be fine and you will make an amazing big sister 🖤 #aussiemum #sweetbaby #melbourne_insta #melbourneblogger
Pouring out her mind, Jessica said she realized that everyone only considers what is better for the baby, but the mother's health is also as important. She claims that breastfeeding her child, Lily, led to postnatal depression; she felt like she wasn't enough.
Her baby had undiagnosed lip and tongue tie, and dealt with feeding struggles thus making Jessica feel like a mother who wasn't doing well.
However, she has gotten out of that stage and is telling mothers out there that their choice for feeding their baby is personal.
The bond is different between every mother and child, and no one should base their method of raising their child on what society wants.
Who would of thought , one little Instagram post would make it worldwide!! And I have you all to thank for your support!! 🙌🏻. Also welcome to all my new followers! You have made it just in time for the labour ! ( no I’m not in labour yet! ) #melbourneblogger #parentinggoals #mumssupportingmums #melbourne_insta
The most important thing is that the baby is fed, healthy and happy. Jessica hopes her story will inspire more moms to be outspoken about their breastfeeding preferences and do whatever works for them.
Since Jessica's post, mothers all over the internet have thanked her for being outspoken on such a sensitive matter. Some confessed they had dealt with PND due to breastfeeding but were afraid to speak out for fear of being judged.
"So happy to read this. one main reason I decided to bf was my mental health and ppd. Although I wish I had stuck it out longer, it's nice to see that other moms have had the same issue."
Another, @xo.taneika.xo wrote:
"This ws almost me with my little one and i bit my bullet and formula fed. It scared me to think that my baby girl was still under her birth weight after 5 weeks. Thank you for sharing your story."
It is crucial to know that your journey with your baby is a very personal one and you have to do what is best for you and the child. Good luck!