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"Regrets, I've Had A Few!" 6 Most Common Mistakes Parents Regret Making

Date January 29, 2019

Any parent struggles with simultaneously juggling infinite laundry, coping with sleep deprivation, and prepping hundreds of lunchboxes every month. We all have been there. At the end of the day, we just dream about curling up in a corner.

However, time flies, children grow up, and in this never-ending circle of errands, and trying not to lose ourselves, we forget to enjoy parenting. “I wish I did it all differently”, how many times did you tell yourself that?

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Unfortunately, we often realize what was done wrong when it’s too late to fix it, and these result in some common regrets, which might bother a parent:

1. I regret not spending more quality time with my kids.

Quality time means being actively engaged in communication. It promotes self-confidence and safety in children, and makes them feel important. Plus, it develops their brain. Playing games with kids isn’t a waste of time, it’s a way to build a bond that will last forever.

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2. I regret not showing more physical affection.

Cuddles and hugs are as essential as the words we say. Physical touch can provide a much stronger emotional support than any verbal communication. By showing affection you teach children to express their love, and help them feel comfortable in their own skin.

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3. I regret being too strict.

Sometimes being a strict parent doesn’t have a positive impact on a child. It’s important to establish rules, and boundaries, but if you say "no" next time, make sure this “no” is justified.

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4. I regret not taking their side.

Whenever your child is baffled with social norms because they aren't quite adjusted to them yet,, or they are involved in a conflict, it’s important to take their side even if they are wrong.Family should be a safe haven for a child, which embeds in them a strong sense of confidence that they are accepted and loved regardless of their faults. It does not mean approving bad behaviour, but leave the lectures for a private time, when you and your kid are tet-a-tet.

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5. I regret not being there for him during the most important times.

Children and adults have different views on priorities. Their baseball game may not seem as important for us as lunch with a colleague, but for a kid, it’s an epic event. Listen to their needs and establish what plays the most important role in their life. Be there to witness their triumph and support them in case of defeat. Children’s emotional struggles aren’t something to be ignored, either. So, postpone your plans, and be there to soothe and comfort.

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6. I regret not making memories together.

Create memories. Taking a trip together, going to the movies, playing a ball game in the park, etc., form layers of happy moments, which pile up and become great memories. Those are a solid base for trustworthy relationships.

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Time goes by very fast: Don’t waste it on regrets and sorrows. It’s time to live a full life as a parent and let your kid grow and learn under your wise and kind supervision. Children have just one chance for a happy childhood, so make every moment count!

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