Best Friends, Both Cheated On By Their Husbands, Discovered A Fascinating Way To Live Through Divorce Using Their Wedding Dresses
June 11, 2019 15:58 By Mambee
Divorce is one of the most painful experiences any family can encounter. It's not only the death of a marriage but also the death of dreams and hopes. Regardless of whether you are the one who wanted a divorce or the one who was left behind, there is inevitable emotional pain and healing to go through.
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Besides pain, the end of marriage normally brings about normal reactions of shame and guilt. These feelings arise when people feel a sense of failure at fulfilling their own or their community’s expectations. The recovery process, in fact, may not be easy but it sure beats staying in the valley of despair.
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Two best friends, Julie Frugé and Sarah Kralowski, have set the internet afire by their hilarious photos showing how they both were trying to pick up the pieces of their lives after discovering their husbands had cheated on them.
The friends first met in 2012 and, at that time, Julie had just discovered her husband’s affair and Sarah offered the support she needed. However, by 2017, both women had known nothing could save their marriages and decided to divorce. Although Julie and Sarah were struggling with the stigma of shame and humiliation, they managed to go on the offense.
Moreover, while thinking about what to do with their wedding dresses over a bottle of wine, the pair was reminded of an episode of Friends, during which Monica and Rachel sit at home in wedding dresses.
That's how the duo decided to create their Instagram page, @itsonlyadress, where they post photos of themselves wearing their beloved wedding dresses while sitting at home, in the garden or even out in public.
“It’s an opportunity to create new memories with things that have bad ones tied to them. We want to show people that they don’t need to look at things or places connected to their marriage with deep hatred and hurt. You can just change the memory and make it positive or funny."
Interestingly, but the best friends don't do this just for fun: They actually hope to convey the idea that there is nothing wrong if your marriage didn't work.
"We want men and women to know that they are not alone in the struggle to get through divorce. Don’t look at it as a failure, instead look at it as a brand new beginning with fun chapters to write in post-divorce lives."
They believe that men and women shouldn’t feel ashamed of being divorced.
“Too many people let the fear of being divorced impact their lives, so there’s a veil of shame or a feeling of failure that comes with divorce... Divorce was the best thing to happen to both of us, although it was hard to see in the beginning."
Divorce doesn’t always have to mean your life is over. It's an opportunity for a new beginning. It's a chance to discover your new self, meet new people, learn love and respect yourself. Well, it's true that you may be overwhelmed, stressed, sad, frustrated ... or all of the above. Yet, try expecting positive things to happen and they eventually will!