Mom Argues Parents Should Request "Consent" From Babies Before Having Their Diapers Changed
August 9, 2019 02:39 By Mambee
Parenting is a tough job, you should not only take care of your child but also teach her or him some important rules. One of such essential things is consent culture. It is vital to raise kids with the belief that only they have a right to do anything with their bodies. They should know that it's perfectly normal to say no when they are not okay with something or they don't want to continue, and people around them should always respect their boundaries and intentions. And they should do the same.
There are many various ways to teach children this lesson. But is this approach good or simply taking things too far?
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Lottie Daley says parents should ask a permission
Taking care of babies usually includes changing their nappies. A baby's diapers should be changed every two or three hours, according to the American Pregnancy Association. Changing diapers is an ordinary thing, but what about consent culture? A mother, named Lottie Daley insists you should consider it more often than you think.
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The woman was a guest on This Morning, where the topic of the day was whether or not it should be illegal to tickle babies without permission. While discussing this question, the mother mentioned t that teaching body autonomy to your kids should start at a young age. Lottie said:
We should be modeling this behavior from birth, like letting your baby know you are changing its nappy.
The mom was realistic: she insisted that it's not about expecting a "yes" or "no" from the child, which is probably impossible. It is a great way to make children understand that their body belongs to them. In other words, the kids learn that anyone should always ask permission before touching them.
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Daley also added that it was essential for older kids too. She said:
When I'm washing my daughters, who are a bit older, they are seven and five, when I've got to wash their bottoms, I do say, 'Can mummy just wash your bottom?' because sometimes you have to. And they say, 'yes' or 'no.'
Moreover, tickling little children should also never happen without permission. However, fellow guest Vanessa Feltz disagreed with this opinion:
I think it’s an absolute shame to say you can’t tickle. You don’t tickle someone you don’t know or a child who doesn’t trust you… and start forcibly tickling. But it is the ultimate innocent love, care, fun, physical contact with a child you love and who loves you.
What about other reactions? Not many people agreed with this mother. Most commenters believed that asking babies before cleaning them up is ridiculous.
This is what is wrong with the world nowadays!!! Somebody needs to start telling these people that they are wrong.... and nuts..... in the words of The Dtone Roses “Stop the world, I’m getting off!”— Thomas Davidson (@thomanddav) February 1, 2019
Well I have a disabled niece who can’t talk and ask for the toilet or tell us she’s wet!— gilly duke box (@39gill) February 1, 2019
Well, we can agree with the importance of teaching children about consent and body autonomy. However, it seems people feel Lottie is going a little too far. Do you agree? Do you have anything to add?