Children Tantrums: 3 Recommendations That May Help Parents Handle Such Situations

Date July 31, 2018

Once you are a parent, there will always be challenges to overcome. While you might feel relieved when the newborn phase is over and you can finally sleep through the night, the toddler phase comes along and it brings a whole new set of challenges.

One major frustration when it comes to parenting toddlers is the tantrums. They vary in intensity, depending on the child's temperament, but you will definitely experience it one way or another. However, this does not mean you are helpless when it comes to dealing with your kid's emotional outbursts. There are a few things you can do to cut down on the frequency and discourage future tantrums. But, first of all, you should learn which words you should use when talking to your children so as not to aggravate their psychological condition:

1. Stay Calm

No matter how loud your kid gets, you have to remember you're the adult here. The last thing you should do is to throw a 'tantrum' of your own by yelling at your child or storming out. Experts suggest calmly waiting it out. If you're calm, your child is more likely to cool down faster. However, if you feel like you are at your wit's end, you can gently walk out of the room, take deep breaths, and return when they're done throwing a tantrum or when you feel calmer. Basically, ensure you are the one in control regardless of your child losing their temper.

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2. Respond Reasonably

It might be tempting to want to give in to your child's demands when they are throwing a tantrum, especially if it happens in public. But you need to make sure your child does not use tantrums as a way to get what they want. If you can, let them scream and yell as much as they want. Then, when they are calmer, encourage them to ask for what they want or express themself calmly. If you are in public, and they are thrashing around in an unsafe way, take them out of harm's way and give them a chance to cool down.

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3. Show Them You Love Them

After your child has calmed down, it is important to talk to them about the tantrums. If you get them to express themselves in an effective manner, praise their efforts. Also, give them a hug and let them know you love them. Young kids react well to positive reinforcement. If they understand that the best way to get your attention is to politely ask, then it will encourage better behavior in the future.

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At the end of the day, your toddler is still trying to figure out how to control their emotions and assert their independence. Tantrums are one way in which they do this. As long as you remain calm and encourage them when they react to things with a cool head, you will be over this phase sooner than you think.

Source: BabyCenter

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