5 Parenting Habits That May Affect A Child's Future Success
December 6, 2017 16:36 By Mambee
Being a parent is a huge responsibility. You have to set your children on the right path by saying and doing the right things. Sure, there is no perfect parent but we can all learn from some of these parenting practices that are very likely to set kids up for failure in future.
1. Not practising what you preach
Hypocrisy is a dangerous practice when it comes to raising children. Your kids do not only listen to what you say, they watch what you do. So, no matter how much you insist that something is wrong, if you do it, they are unlikely to listen to you. You cannot, for instance, say that using a phone during family dinner is wrong when you also do the same thing.
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2. Being overprotective
If you want your child to grow up confident and with a high self-esteem, you need to let them make mistakes. It is often hard to do because our first instinct is usually to protect them, but it does not serve them in the long run. Let them fall. The ability to get back up will make them know that they have their own strength and can do what they set their mind to. Give them a chance to solve problems on their own. You will be amazed by what they can learn to do if given a chance and space to explore.
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3. Practicing guilt-parenting
Never feel guilty if you do things that your kids may not like. In fact, if your children are happy with your every parenting decision, then something is not right. It's your job to show some tough love and make hard decisions. You should not just be their friend, you are their mentor, teacher, leader and critic. They need to understand that actions have consequences and that they only get what they work for. If you don't teach them this, the world will teach them in an even harsher way.
4. You are allowed to share your mistakes
Once you make it look like you are perfect all the time and never make mistakes, you won't be relatable to your kids who are probably struggling with a few things. Open up about the bad decisions you made and what you learned from them. Let them know they are not the only ones who make mistakes. This makes them more comfortable talking to you about their own errors in judgement and you will experience a stronger bond with them.
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Yes, you should boost your children's self-confidence by praising them. But you do not have to celebrate every little thing. They need to know that praise is earned. Besides, if you keep praising all they do, those words soon lose their meaning. Adversely, you may raise an entitled child who believes he is great at everything only for the world to show him he isn't. This will certainly be a blow to his self-confidence.
The important thing is to make your child feel loved, but to also teach them the concept of boundaries. No one gets it right all the time. The point is to keep trying.