A Woman's Instagram Post About Cherishing Motherhood Is A Reminder For Mums To Live In The Moment
December 12, 2017 18:35 By Mambee
There are a lot of great things about being a mother but sometimes, we are so overwhelmed with all the struggles that we forget to embrace the good parts.
Anna Strode, a mother who often shared all her motherhood adventures on her Instagram page @bubs2bikinis, shared a story of how eight words from two elderly strangers changed her perspective on motherhood and reminded her to focus on making lifetime memories.
Strode and her three kids made a trip to her local cafe. As any mother can imagine in a situation like that, things were quite hectic. One of the kids was crying, another was running amok. It was such a stressful scenario that all the mother wanted to do at the time was simply scream for help due to exhaustion.
While in the midst of all the chaos, Strode heard an elderly woman who was passing by whisper to her husband, "Those were the best days of our lives.”
"They were the best days of our lives" I heard an old man who looked in his late 80's whisper to his wife while I leaned over and picked up a spilt baby chino off the cafe floor. My initial thoughts when I saw the cup leave Lachies hands and smash onto the floor was "far out, not again!" I was on my own and had Madi strapped to me in the carrier grizzling because she was tired, Lachie crying over his spilt baby chino and Sammy racing behind the cafe counter into the kitchen. Part of me wanted to laugh but the other half of me wanted to sit down on the ground and cry while screaming 'Help me, I'm exhausted and I just can't MUM today!!!' Then I heard it, those 8 words that changed everything... "They were the best days of our lives." I turned and smiled "REALLY?!" And the little old man and lady both nodded at me as mrs old lady said "The best by far" The chaos around me suddenly didn't feel painful or frustrating anymore. I wanted to bottle it up and STOP time because I realised in that moment that one day my babies will be all grown up with their own babies and they won't need me anymore ???????? It suddenly dawned on me that one day that will be Rhett and I sitting at a cafe watching young mums and dads with their babies and wishing our babies hadn't grown up so quickly ???????? Those 8 words have been on replay in my head since I heard them 2 days ago. It really struck a cord with me. Because you know what - it's SO TRUE! The catnapping, the tantrums, the getting up 100 times a night, the co-sleeping, the messy house, the endless washing, the constant exhaustion. One day we're going to miss all this...! Sure, these days can be hard, they can be testing, they can be down right challenging but I bet you a MILLION bucks, they will be the BEST DAMN DAYS OF OUR LIVES ????✨???? #mumlife #momlife #mummyblogger #mommyblogger #motherhood #parenting
At first, Strode was not sure she heard right. How could a day filled with screaming kids be what someone else described as "best?" She turned to the older couple and asked, "really?" to which the old lady nodded and said, "the best by far."
This encounter caused Strode to take a second look at her exhausting kids and understood what the elderly couple was saying. She realised that someday, her children would grow up and would not need her. They would have kids of their own and live their own lives,
When this time comes, all she and her husband would have are the memories of today. And chances are, many years from now, they would see a young mum struggling with wrangling her stubborn kids and she would say to her, "these were the best days of our lives."
The lesson here is simple, this time, no matter how stressful it is, will pass. The kids will grow up and be on their own. You want to look back and know for sure that you enjoyed every single moment of them depending on you and bringing colour into your life.