5 Tips Which Help A Parent To Learn Patience
December 14, 2017 15:39 By Mambee
If you have kids who drive you crazy sometimes, you are not alone. But stop and look around and learn to appreciate the moment, because your children won’t be little forever. But how often we forget about it, and get angry with them or lose temper. But we all can learn throughout our life and it is never too late to find out how to be calmer and obtain more patience.
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Here are few tips you may find helpful:
1. Pay attention to your behavior when you get irritated.
It is useful to analyze your behavior and try a different scenario – at first take a deep breath, take time to think of what you have to say, say it in a calm way. Such self-training may be a good start for getting this habit – speak in a calm voice.
2. Say “yes” more.
You may get angry because a child is breaking one of the rules you established. But maybe you have to review those rules, are they all inviolable? Allowing more things to your child will make you worry less. Let’s say your kid is begging to eat an ice-cream not at home but on the way home, and your arguing gets more intense, maybe it is better to step back and let your precious one enjoy the treat, both of you will feel relief.
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3. Do not multitask.
This is important, when you keep all those tasks for the day in your head and try to make it on time, you get irritated, and you won’t be able to enjoy simple things you and your child may share. Instead you would be angry about a mess in the kitchen, or toys all over the place. But smart time-planning will leave you a room for yourself, as well as for time with your kid, it will make you confident about yourself, and calm.
4. Admit your mistakes.
No one is perfect, right? So whenever you feel you are wrong in the situation, do not be afraid to admit it to kids, and say “I am sorry”, you will feel a major feedback of this action. This way you will teach children to act the same way.
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5. Discover your triggers
You have to understand yourself better and to find out what exactly drives you crazy. Then you will know how to work on yourself, and maybe give little tips to your kids, so that they could understand your moods.
It is essential to remember that you set an example for your little ones, and they always follow parents’ behavior. There are no perfect mothers, or fathers, so do not be too hard on yourself. Learning patience is possible, if you are willing to make yourself a better parent.